Wicked Stingy

After several previous attempts to build up to it, last night for the first time Minx felt some "heartier" strikes from the cane. Ours came from Cane-i-Ac and is their OTK style. I was very proud of her, she was quivering with every stroke and yet managed to hold still. She was my very good girl. I gave her about 9 strokes over her clothes and then removed her panties. I gave a nice series and then asked her if she was ready to accept an intense one.... She responded that it was up to me... I responded that she should ask for what she needed, sh did. I was so very proud of her, the gift of her submission was extrodinary.

We then proceeded to a more traditional rather extended OTK spanking, we haven't had much opportunity lately with one exception of the Stress Relief that Minx gave me over the weekend.

Aftercare can not be over rated by the way.

Stress Relief

Well I've joined the ranks of the unemployed (again).

I spent most of last week mopeing around in a fog, with all the things going through my head that pre-occupy too many of our brains today... How will we make ends meet? How will ever get ahead? When will they decide to repo the vehicle? How can survive?

So Stress in bucket loads...

Minx had enough of it by Saturday and yup you guessed it...

I got a spanking, a BIG spanking. Damn I should never have tought that girl how to hold the paddle.

Well I think it worked, cleared the head a bit.

Life will go on and somehow we will prevail.

Memorable Spanking

One thing that has become too obvious lately is that I've not been able to spank Minx the way she needs to be spanked. There are lots of reasons but the most common reason is the lack of privacy and with work schedules how seldom we see one another.



However, what has happened over recent months is her spanking sessions have gotten harsh with more intense implements, but too quick.

In retrospect it's obvious that I've been having a hard time spanking Minx effectively. Somehow I love her more every day and that makes it harder to truly spank painfully for an extended period. The point being, that is exactly opposite of what she needs.



She hasn't been getting corner time intermissions just OTK or pillows till done. She hasn't been getting the A.A.A.C. (Avoid At All Costs) Spanking when she deserves it. Well, that changed, she told me and she got the good spanking she needed. There was corner time and prolonged sessions with some of our more "memory making" implements and she was sore for several days.


I truely have to work on knowing that she needs more.

Reminder spanking would have been good this weekend but it just wasn't in the cards.

Mutual DD, Tough Times, Tempers, Plastic Strops and Sore Cheeks

If you are talking about Doms and subs, well they might not fully understand the sort of peculiar relationship that exists when you are both Dom and sub. How can it be? Well, just be in love with someone who you’ve decided to not only be held accountable to… but also some who you’ve agreed to hold accountable.

Yes folks, a mutual domestic discipline relationship is very unique, and I’ve found it to be very special.

Me?
Well, I know better. However call it a scream for attention… Call it just plain stupid… This past week I did the unforgiveable. I drove drunk. As ususal, I made it home without problem Being able to drive in such a condition is not a blessing but a curse, that ultimately allows one to believe that they can always do it without problems… an impossible thing to do forever.

I talked to Minx from the bar, she guessed I was probably there. What she didn’t know was that I was knocking back shots with my beers… all of course on an empty stomach as I had not eaten all day. She had no idea just how wasted I was till I got home and was literally falling down. I text messaged her, (no excuse) that I was being naughty. I expected her to come get me. She did not... for one very good reason, her phone (and we verified this) never got the sent messages.

That’s been the way it’s been for us lately, we’ve had very odd and some very tough times some we've caused ourselves but most we've just been stuck in the middle of. In a nutshell... We are expecting to be evicted any day… or powerless,… or phoneless… or heatless… as we continue to dance around the bills that we can barely sometimes pay. Stress is high... no unbearable for both of us, and neither of us could deal with all of this without the other... tempers run on sharp edges… and we often need to grab each other by the earlobe and drag each other for a well deserved spanking but can’t even do that because we never seem to have privacy.

Well, come to the rescue… a friend. One special lady who knows our situation (who I used to mentor) let us use her house for a few hours today. Minx took full advantage and my poor ass is burning.

Thanks again to that special lady who managed to leave on her dresser (for Minx’s use) the wicked plastic prison strap. For those that may want to know… It works all too well.

The Notorious Bettie Page

I was just reading about Bettie Page. It's hard to imagine what life would have been like for such a free spirit in the 50's. Not only was she a "Pin-Up" girl, but she was also featured in many BDSM photos.

Apparently she just passed away at the age of 85.

Kind of makes you wonder what your Grandmother might have been doing back in the day doesn't it?

Power Tools

Its' hard to imagine why we have such a fascination with implements (and of course such large collections).

Pictured here are the latest popular "power tools" that seem to get the most use within our household.
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The top paddle is "ol' faithful" which has a long history of getting strong reactions. Measuring about 10 inches or so and of very sound 3/4" thick oak it has a long established history of having earned considerable respect. In spite of looking like a wennie paddle there it absolutely no doubt that it can easily rank about a 8.9 (or more) on the "Oh Sh**" Meter.

The second one down is the OTK paddle with holes from Reb's (which unfortunately appears to have stopped selling their fine products). Being about 1/2" thick it's fairly light for it's size (except at the business end) and measures about 14" in overall length. When used with gusto it can also do about a minimum of 8.1 and perhpas a 9.7 or greater on the "OS" meter.

The third implement is the "Sawed Off" bath brush. Made by "Ecotools". This beauty packs about an 17.2 on the "OS" meter ( The OS meter runs from 1 to 10 by the way).

Bringing up the bottom (in more ways than one) is the raw form of the "Sawed Off". It's a beast and can score about a 25.7 on the above mentioned "OS" meter.

My darling Minx bought the two monster "eco friendly" bamboo bath brushes from Kmart I believe. Last weekend sweet Min had very valid reasons to question the wisdom of that purchase.

Last night, I too learned of the foolishness of that purchase. Then, as a fire built upon my posterior I too began to contemplate a bamboo bon-fire; as I was introduced to the edge of the envelope of the "OS" Meter.

Had to Happen

Minx, the love of my life has not been feeling well for too long now. Well, part of it has been that she has been a bit under the weather, and part of it has been that she has known that she has earned a serious discipline session. One that even if she could get out of, never would consider doing.

It all started a week ago when there was the need for what should have been a quick simple spanking. Well, attitudes and timing were all wrong, the spanking did not go well and of course much of it was my fault as I do believe that it is the HOH's responsibility to make sure that the punishment is appropriate, timely and certain. However, her response to the needed spanking was somewhat disrespectful to say the least and we all know that has to be intollerable.

There were certain aspects of the spanking that Minx earned last week that were less than certain... However...She questioned the discipline... that can't happen. She resisted the discipline... again, that can't happen. However more seriously, she failed to properly submit and some of the things that happened actually would of, or could have... endangerd our relationship if one or both of us were less resiliant than we are.

The end result was that Minx just received what was perhaps the most severe, the most painful and the most long lasting spanking that she's ever had. It hurt me terribly to spank her so severly. I never want to have to giver her such a severe spanking again but I will NEVER hesitate to do so when it is the proper thing to do.

The Cure All

I was just watching the show "Manswers" which is a chauvinistic show designed to answer the weird questions that are always in the back of mind of the average American male.

Well, to sum it all up, men are pigs, no great revelation here.

Some of the topics being covered were "What odors will turn woman on?"

and

"In what country is a man most likely to be satisfied orally?"

The answer by the way is Austria, something about the love of sausage I guess.

But I digress…

One of the brain teaser questions was: "What is the best way to beat an addiction?"

Well, guess what...

Not a 12 step plan…

Not methadone…

The best way to beat an addiction happens to be… "Getting Whipped" AKA: SPANKED!!!

So, how does one get an insurance company to cover those therapy sessions?

In any event…

What an incredible revelation.

Geessseee…

All along we’ve been on cutting edge of medical science and have never known it. However, in the pursuit of nothing less than establishing a standard that includes exploring the unknown for the betterment of mankind...

We will pursue the exploration to find the edge of the envelope.

We will continue to explore the cutting edge of science and be there for any new developments. Perhaps it's time for a Federal Grant to determine what is the most effective implement…

It’s about time we get some Federal Funding in the Spanko World.

Could Submission Help Foster Feminine?

Privacy is such a rare thing for Minx and I right now. So, when we have it, we must use it even if the time may not be right emotion wise to address certain needs in a proper manner. However, we use what time we can in what ever way we can.

The other night Minx and I lay in bed and I rolled her over bottom up and gave her a warm bottom with hand and one of the light hairbrushes. It wasn't a spanking for a specific reason, nor was it very severe. Somehow I just thought it was needed. Her first reaction was "Do you feel better now?" referring to my obvious (biological response to having secured her submission for a spanking) pleasure while I spanked her. In response to her question I handed her the hairbrush rolled over and gave her the opportunity to have revenge which she too merrily indulged in.

When done I asked her "Do you feel better now?". She thought about it for a few seconds and completely ignored the fact that I gave her the opportunity to spank me and responded that it had been a while since she had a chance to feel submissive and feminine.

Tonight I came home and found Minx asleep on the sofa with the TV on... Butt in the air... Well you know what I did! Yeah, she jumped up and quickly sat up protecting her bottom from further immediate attention. Later I came over and gave her bottom more attention and remarked how we now had a Kodak moment candidate for the "Spanking Classics Red Butt of the Year" Award.

Actually, I believe she was again happy to have submitted for no other reason than to know that having submitted to my will that she be spanked made her feel more feminine.

What think yee?

Creative Juices

Somehow I think Minx gets very nervous when my creative juices begin to flow.

Well, we needed something quieter for those special occaisions and I made a "homemade" Loopy Johny out of an old broom handle and a bungee cord.

Now you would think that Minx would be proud of me for having been very creative...

Not so.
She does not like it at all (especially when those creative juices land upon her cheeks).

She does not like the Loopy at all actually and gave me absolutely no serious "At-A-Boys" for having created it.

Yet, and here's the part that's NOT FAIR.... She had absolutley no reluctance to LIGHT MY ASS ON FIRE with the aforementioned Loopy Johnny durring a need for a quiet session upon my posterior a week or so ago.

This whole Spencer thing could get pretty ugly...

Damn, I need a new hobby.

Broken Cane

I’m about to tell some things about Minx and I that neither her nor I have ever discussed or "blogged" about before in any sort of detail.

Anyone who has read our blogs knows how I won't hesitate to spank her poor bottom raw...
Well, she just might very well...
No, ah shit...
She WILL be returning the favor.

Now those of you who may have read some on the things here, or particularly on my Yahoo 360 know that I am not your typical eyeryday found on any street corner Dom-ish Disciplinarian. If you know anything about me you’ll know that my first sparks into non-vanilla-ism was based on some deep seeded need to be submissive. Butt, then there were complications.

Well, like an experienced subbie friend who when I told her that I thought I had some dom-ish tendencies told me that she could tell I was a natural Dom but she knew I had to find that out for myself. Although my whole approach to LDD has been keeping it as far from BDSM as possible there are of course those other times when minds drift to the D/S aspects for any sort of play.

Well all of this gets so complicated and confusing sometimes…

There are times when I know that the label of switch suites me best. In any event Minx has known this about me from the start, or actually before the start and one of the first things that came up when we became an item was that perhaps a "Spencer" thing might work really well for us (at her suggestion). No, not that she has ever had any Fem-Dom desires but she does have a basic desire to give me whatever I might want or need.

Uh… is that bottoming from the Top or subbing from the side…
well…
who knows…
It doesn’t really matter in the long run…

Butt…

I resisted.

In hindsight not because I didn’t know that she was probably right but because I’ve spent an hour or two Googling "Spencer Plan" and have come to the conclusion that there is little if any evidence of it being any more than an urban legend. Some sort of well organized hoax story… great idea that it may be.
My resistance with time has worn away by my inner desire at times to be on the wrong end of the paddle, and to find ways to be closer to her.
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Fast forward to a week or three ago…

On one of those rare occasions I found myself face down into the bedcovers with my butt propped high… Minx sitting on my back to hold me down and spanking the living daylights out of my poor ass. Yeah, despite underlying curiosities and all I don’t submit very well. Now… here’s the thing. Minx got VERY wet and I got very excited (read hard) about the whole idea.

So…
I told Minx that I was wrong to brush off her long ago suggestion and told her that yes, it might just be the perfect thing for the two of us.

Well, that of course means that at some point I have to get the same sort of AAAC (Avoid At All Cost) spanking that she has become very familiar with. Hard as it may be she has done her best to give me that spanking (Apparently I need to be restrained for such a thing). On the couple of occasions that she has tried to get us going on that track… I’ve resisted and Dom-ed my way out of those spankings.

The really scary part for me is that she has learned (first-hand) from our toy collection what really, really hurts. Oh yeah, she knows how to use them all including the old broken cane. Perhaps she needs to scold me into submitting without restraint. She did get me over some pillows and managed to land about nine really memorable strokes with the old (broken 6" short) cane. It was that last stroke, she was more adept with each one… Stroke number nine was extrememly painful and left my ass with a sore sport that lasted for about five days.

The whole experience brought to mind one of Minx's better quotes: "What the hell was I thinking when I decided on this whole spanking thing… I need a new hobby." (Scarlet Minx, 2008)

One of the unique aspects is that the whole time I may be thinking that a spanking may be enroute to my ass... I still have to be there holding Minx accountable... the double edged paddle of a Spencer-ish relationship.

I know how hard it is for Minx to even try (in spite of our recent discovery about it’s ability to get her wet).
Uh-Oh, did I somehow uncover a closet FemDom? We do have very little free and private time together, however I know the sooner or later the inevitable will certainly arrive upon my poor cheeks.

Thank you God for the gift of letting me have this woman in my life… I love her so much!

Minx my sweetie...

I LOVE YOU!

Lots of Sting

Well Minx has a very sore bottom and this series of spankings probably the most severe she has ever had from me.

She certainly deserved a good spanking but she crossed the line and misbehaved durring the spanking, she wrote about it on her blog so I won't repeat it here but lets just say her mouth got out of control when she saw the bath brush.

Minx hates sting, so I made sure she got plenty very intense sting. What she doesn't get very often but she did get this time was that deeper muscle soreness that stays after the sting is gone.

As time goes by I love Minx more and more every day. Being someone who has paddled a number of naughty bottoms over the past couple of years, you would think it would get easier for me. The thing of it is it's actually getting pretty hard to spank Minx. It's one thing to do a GG spanking but when she needs a really good spanking it gets harder to do every time.